Love Myself Slim

"This is a book that provides enormous psychological insight and practical help for anyone struggling with issues around eating. It is full of practical wisdom and useful strategies for creating real change. I highly recommend it".

Phil Joyce. SeniorTutor. The Metanoia Institute for Psychotherapy

Love Myself Slim book cover Why do we over-eat and why do diets often not work? This book argues that over-eating is primarily based upon an absence of love and compassion for the self leading to difficulties with assertion and boundary-making. Unable to express our real feelings we compensate by over-eating. Learning to become more authentic means we have less need to binge.

Drawing upon elements of Gestalt and Mindfulness Meditation this book leads you via many practical exercises to a deeper understanding of why you over-eat. Encouraging you to break out of the childhood patterns of the past and express who you are more clearly in the Here-and-Now. The final section helps you create a programme which will promote and sustain change.

In this highly practical book experienced psychotherapist Jonathan Whines details how the parental rules we learn as a child can make us overly compliant and disconnected from our bodies.    Learning to love ourselves and assert our emotional needs in the world is finally the only "diet" which can really work!

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Extracts from Love Myself Slim


People come in all shapes and sizes so feeling good about yourself is more important than demanding that you have to be slim. However, if you want to lose weight it will help considerably if you understand some of the psychological issues that may prevent this.

This book will encourage and challenge you to consider how you feel about food, your feelings and yourself. At the heart of this approach is the development of a mindful and compassionate attitude towards yourself - so we would encourage you to try and adopt this attitude of kindness from the beginning.

When we over-eat it is often because we feel sad or angry or our self-esteem is low. Try to cultivate a loving attitude towards yourself as you travel along this new path of discovery.As a first step buy yourself a journal and following the exercises start to keep a record of this journey.
June 2010

Chapter One Understanding The Body-Mind Disconnect


Thousands of diet books proclaim the virtues of eating according to certain plans. They encourage more of this food less of that. They all meet with a degree of success and a degree of failure. What they miss is that the ideas in their books will encounter a particular mind-set. When it comes to food most of us have quite powerful attitudes learnt when we were young. The ideas in the diet books are bit like firing arrows at a well-defended castle. Most of us are psychologically not so different to the castle. So, however good the concepts are we often fail at dieting because we do not understand our own psychology and the patterns learnt from the past which keep us over-eating.

At the heart of most abusive behavior and over-eating is a form of abuse, lies a fundamental loss of compassion. This may manifest as a loss of compassion for the world but is more truly a loss of compassion for ourselves.

How and why we lose compassion for ourselves is a compelling and usually sad story. How we regain compassion requires a careful de-construction and reconstruction of our inner world.

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